The One Great Secret To A Great & Satisfying S£x Life

relationshipDorothy Blacks reveals what it takes to enjoy a rich and satisfying .
‘The best way to achieve your dream is to do nothing at all except wish upon a star.’
This is my favourite motivational quote said by no one ever.
Why? Because everyone knows that if you want to attain your dream of anything you must put in the time and effort. You have to pitch up and get motivated.
You gotta learn to communicate and network, upskill yourself and practice amplifying the positives and learning from the failures.
Seems so obvious, right?
But, while we accept these as truisms, when it comes to S£x too many people behave as if a long-term relationship is a space you can sit your butt down in, not do a damn thing, and Cupid will bless you with eternal happiness and a fulfilling S£x .
And if this doesn’t happen?
Well, then there’s clearly something wrong with the relationship, or it’s not the right partner, or its just dealing you a shitty hand.
We never assume the most obvious, which is that maybe we’re just not very good at the task at hand: how to and S£x well.
And maybe we never admit that we aren’t very good because we just expect stuff to fall into place with that one magical ‘just right’ person.
So we never ‘upskilled’ in the ways necessary to make S£x in a relationship good: we didn’t learn how to communicate well and honestly, or how to with conflict and failure; we didn’t learn S£xy-time skills or learn healthy boundaries.
It’s the equivalent of sitting on your bed, just wish-wish-wishing your career dreams will come true.
The truth is, even with your one true , if you want a satisfying S£x , you need to make the effort to grow, learn and get involved.
If you understand this, say researchers, you’re more likely to have a satisfying S£x .
The University of Toronto conducted a study of 1 900 people looking at how their ‘S£xpectations’ around their ‘ideal’ and S£x life helped or hindered them in maintaining satisfying S£x lives.
Those who believed S£xual satisfaction came down to finding a perfectly compatible partner were placed in the ‘S£xual destinies belief’ category.
Those who believed it comes from hard work and effort were placed in the ‘S£xual growth belief’ category.
Not surprisingly, the peeps in the ‘S£xual growth beliefs’ category ‘experience higher relationship and S£xual satisfaction’.
And why not? You reap what you sow et cetera et cetera.
The researchers point out, however, that most respondents displayed a cross-over in belief systems.
Which is great, since no amount of effort can fix the problem of zero S£xual or compatibility.
But if you’ve got something good and want the secret to a great S£x life? Make some effort.
Learn skills. Check in. Pitch up. Talk. Get curious. Ask the difficult questions of yourself and each other. Nothing comes from doing nothing.
As that saying goes: ‘The grass is greener where you water it.’
Your S£x life is no different

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