14. Expecting perfect love as seen in movies.
We see a lot of perfect couples on film and it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking every day in your relationship will be flawless. Relationships are hard work, but the good news is that you tend to get out what you put in. Also, beware of falling for the concept, not the person/ It’s very flattering when we find someone who wants us, when we find a relationship that feels like it’s ‘grownup’. But we can get drawn into the concept of serious, ignoring the fact that it’s the relationship we want, not our particular partner. If you ask yourself whether – if you replaced your serious partner with someone else – you’d still be happy so long as you were going steady, it’s a danger sign. Make your first serious partnership one that you can truly take seriously because the two of you are genuinely in love not because you want to be seen to be in love.
15. Not being willing to admit you got it wrong.
Even if you try your best, you may not get it all right first time around. There’s no shame in that. You’re only human. It’s not a hanging offence. Sometimes, the best thing is to learn your lesson and move on. Trying desperately to hold onto a relationship that has no future is tempting. Maybe you’re frightened of being alone, or worried what people will think. In both cases, you’ll survive. Staying too long in a relationship that has run its course will damage your confidence and only delay the inevitable. When it’s time to leave, leave with grace knowing that you’ll be better equipped to find your perfect long-term partner next time round.
Did you make any of these mistakes in your first relationship? Do you think you are about to? Or are you still making any? Here’s an opportunity to call yourself to order and improve.
What are other popular mistakes people make in their first relationship that you know? Please share with us.
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